Heart, Motherhood

i love being a boy mom

As the mother of a son, I identify as a “boy mom”. I feel so lucky to have a son, to get to experience the special bond that only exists between a boy and his mom. It’s such an incredible joy to be mama to a little boy.

I have to admit that when we first found out that the little bean in my belly was a boy, I was nervous. I didn’t know how to raise a boy. I felt like it would somehow be easier to bond better with a little girl, that it would be more natural to have a daughter. We would dress up, play Barbies, wearing matching outfits, and she would be my mini-me. With a boy I felt wholly unprepared. How would we connect? Would I be able to show him I loved him if we didn’t have the same interests? Would he automatically prefer Curtis over me?

Don’t get me wrong, I was thrilled to be having a boy, to be welcoming a son into our family. I knew I was going to love watching Curtis with his son, his own little mini-me, someone he would be able to share all of his joys and passions with. I was just nervous that I wouldn’t be as good a mom to a boy as I would to a girl.

Let me tell you, though, that being a boy mom is the best. Luke is sweet, gentle and so affectionate. He loves nothing more than to give me snuggles, hugs and kisses. And he gives the best hugs baby bear hugs. I’ve also discovered that lying on the floor playing with trucks and chasing a little boy around is actually right up my alley. Not to mention that there is way less pressure when it comes to dressing a boy – I never worry about finding the right hair accessory for his outfit. Luke is silly and full of energy, but he’s never too busy to stop and hug his mom. He plays hard, and he loves harder.

Looking back, it feels as though I was meant have a son all along. Meant to be mama to a little boy. He’s brought out parts of me I didn’t know I had. And while I know that one day my gentle little boy will grow up to be a man, I like to think that there will always be a dedicated place in his heart for me.

As we get ready to welcome a new baby into our family, I’m feeling nervous all over again. While I be thrilled to welcome another boy to the team, I’m equally as excited to learn the joys of being a girl mom.

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